How well do you know yourself? In a fast-paced world filled with tons of distractions, it is easy to lose yourself in the madness. Day in and day out we follow through our routines the same way as our parents lived (except for FB, foodporn, selfies and all the social media and internet hoohas). Knowledge has never been convenient, no need to go through the library and browse through the Dewey system to search which books has answers. At the tip of our finger tips and in a matter of seconds, Google provides us with answers on different queries. Bored tonight, I asked Google if it knew me and I was feeling lucky. What response did I get? Well, Google brought me to this youtube video. Just shows that Google cannot answer everything but also a reminder that no one in this world (religious people will disagree because God knows) but apart from those immortal, no one really knows you as much as you know yourself.
The lack of knowledge on who we are has brought us into a lot of confusion and we find ourselves lost and losing. We take it out on others. We say “Yes” and do things for the sake of likeability. Man is undeniably a social being but the world has put too much emphasis on fitting a certain frame. We try to fit in this box while filling our souls with resentment.
Good news! I am here to help or I’d like to think I am doing the world a favour by writing this out (I would prefer slapping you in the face but then I don’t like violence at the moment). Warrior Wednesdays will remind you weekly to fight back from being swallowed into a sea of insignificance. Each week, I will write out a challenge that will hopefully make you a better person. You are not alone on the battle, I am doing it with you.
First Challenge: Spend Time on Getting to Know Yourself Better
You cannot be better if you do not know what to change. Take 15-30 minutes each day to think and answer these questions:
- Do you complain often of “feeling bad,” and if so, what is the cause?
- Do you find fault with other people at the slightest provocation?
- Do you frequently make mistakes in your work, and if so, why?
- Are you sarcastic and offensive in your conversation?
- Do you deliberately avoid the association of anyone, and if so, why?
- Do you suffer frequently with indigestion? If so, what is the cause?
- Does life seem futile and the future hopeless to you? If so, why?
- Do you like your occupation? If not, why?
- Do you often feel self-pity, and if so why?
- Are you envious of those who excel you?
- To which do you devote most time, thinking of SUCCESS, or of FAILURE?
- Are you gaining or losing self-confidence as you grow older?
- Do you learn something of value from all mistakes?
- Are you permitting some relative or acquaintance to worry you? If so, why?
- Are you sometimes “in the clouds” and at other times in the depths of despondency?
- Who has the most inspiring influence upon you? What is the cause?
- Do you tolerate negative or discouraging influences which you can avoid?
- Are you careless of your personal appearance? If so, when and why?
- Have you learned how to “drown your troubles” by being too busy to be annoyed by them?
- Would you call yourself a “spineless weakling” if you permitted others to do your thinking for you?
- Do you neglect internal bathing until auto-intoxication makes you ill-tempered and irritable?
- How many preventable disturbances annoy you, and why do you tolerate them?
- Do you resort to liquor, narcotics, or cigarettes to “quiet your nerves”? If so, why do you not try will-power instead?
- Does anyone “nag” you, and if so, for what reason?
- Do you have a DEFINITE MAJOR PURPOSE, and if so, what is it, and what plan have you for achieving it?
- Do you suffer from any of the Six Basic Fears? If so, which ones?
- Have you a method by which you can shield yourself against the negative influence of others?
- Do you make deliberate use of auto-suggestion to make your mind positive?
- Which do you value most, your material possessions, or your privilege of controlling your own thoughts?
- Are you easily influenced by others, against your own judgment?
- Has today added anything of value to your stock of knowledge or state of mind?
- Do you face squarely the circumstances which make you unhappy, or sidestep the responsibility?
- Do you analyze all mistakes and failures and try to profit by them or, do you take the attitude that this is not your duty?
- Can you name three of your most damaging weaknesses?
- What are you doing to correct them?
- Do you encourage other people to bring their worries to you for sympathy?
- Do you choose, from your daily experiences, lessons or influences which aid in your personal advancement?
- Does your presence have a negative influence on other people as a rule?
- What habits of other people annoy you most?
- Do you form your own opinions or permit yourself to be influenced by other people?
- Have you learned how to create a mental state of mind with which you can shield yourself against all discouraging influences?
- Does your occupation inspire you with faith and hope?
- Are you conscious of possessing spiritual forces of sufficient power to enable you to keep your mind free from all forms of FEAR?
- Does your religion help you to keep your own mind positive?
- Do you feel it your duty to share other people’s worries? If so, why?
- If you believe that “birds of a feather flock together” what have you learned about yourself by studying the friends whom you attract?
- What connection, if any, do you see between the people with whom you associate most closely, and any unhappiness you may experience?
- Could it be possible that some person whom you consider to be a friend is, in reality, your worst enemy, because of his negative influence on your mind?
- By what rules do you judge who is helpful and who is damaging to you?
- Are your intimate associates mentally superior or inferior to you?
- How much time out of every 24 hours do you devote to:
a. your occupation
c. play and relaxation
d. acquiring useful knowledge
e. plain waste
Who among your acquaintances,
a. encourages you most
b. cautions you most
c. discourages you most
d. helps you most in other ways
- What is your greatest worry? Why do you tolerate it?
- When others offer you free, unsolicited advice, do you accept it without question, or analyze their motive?
- What, above all else, do you most DESIRE?
- Do you intend to acquire it?
- Are you willing to subordinate all other desires for this one?
- How much time daily do you devote to acquiring it?
- Do you change your mind often? If so, why?
- Do you usually finish everything you begin?
- Are you easily impressed by other people’s business or professional titles, college degrees, or wealth?
- Are you easily influenced by what other people think or say of you?
- Do you cater to people because of their social or financial status?
- Whom do you believe to be the greatest person living?
- In what respect is this person superior to yourself?
- How much time have you devoted to studying and answering these questions? (At least one day is necessary for the analysis and the answering of the entire list.)
It takes a lot of effort but if you take time to answer truthfully (do not dare lie to yourself) then you will know more about yourself than majority of Earth. If you seem uncertain on some questions then ask people who know you well (real friends who will not flatter you, who sees you as who you are. This little challenge will help you start an amazing change within yourself. Awareness of one’s mind is the first step to taking control over things.
Feel free to share your answers and thoughts on this challenge. I will post some of my answers next Wednesday along with the second challenge!